I am teaching myself to let go.
I recently read a fantastic book called Motherstyles (Janet Penley) and it correctly identified that for my Myers-Briggs personality style (ESTJ) one of my struggles is letting go.
The book talks specifically about parenting but I recognise it in so many areas of my life and this is something I feel that I need to do some self-coaching on.
But as with everything in life, I’m doing it in baby steps.
So first thing to let go of was an easy-ish one. My diary (planner).
I have a GORGEOUS deep red diary/ planner but I haven’t been using it regularly. The same thing happened last year – I thought it was the maternity leave/ baby thing but no. I forget to look in it half the time and then two weeks pass.
And what good is a diary if you don’t look at it?
No more.
So I let go.
- Even though it cost a bit of money.
- Even though I’d customised it perfectly.
- Even though it’s bee-yoo-ti-ful. Don’t you agree?
And so on.
I was thinking about WHY I’m not using the beautiful diary and I realised I really, really, REALLY love a week-at-a-glance diary – that’s how I plan my life and that’s what works best for me.
I had a spare week-at-a-glance diary I got on a sale so I hauled it out and I am so much happier.
I planned out the rest of the month and it’s been so EASY doing it like this!
Small steps, people.
Yes, I’m sad not using the other but I cheer myself up because I’m teaching myself to let go 🙂
What are you working on? Please tell me I’m not the only one with issues.
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I will be doing some letting go next week when I purge my clothes!!!!!!
I to cannot use a daily diary. For me its my calender in the kitchen. Everything goes on that, then I have a whiteboard on the fridge with all our names on it and that holds our weekly schedule. Well, it works for me 🙂
Hi Marcia,
I think the fact that your life changed and you now have 2 babies has a lot to do with it. When life changes we must change and often what worked for us before may not work for us now.
I have had to adapt myself, from before being healthy to having chronic health issues. It’s been a long process, and I’m still learning, but I keep learning to let go. For example, I am doing container gardening this year again and took on a bit much, but it may not be feasible for me to continue this next year.
You seem like me as my husband thinks I am am obsessed with planners. Right now I think I have at least 4 on hand, and keep trying and changing and sometimes not using one at all either! I like being able to see the week ahead also, and sometimes I like using a monthly calendar to see the entire month too (especially when it comes to making medical appts. and such). I usually never pay more than $15-$20 (U.S.) for a planner, although your leather red planner is just beautiful!
Hope you, your husband and babies are doing well! Lyn
I am trying to let go of lots of things!!! My Mum is a chronic hoarder, I am not as bad, but still have too much stuff! This month, I am thinning out paper, I have kept everything for years, need to be rid!