On thank-you notes and words of affirmation

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Gretchen Rubin and her sister chatted at length (three different podcasts!) about thank-you notes after Elizabeth confessed that they had 30 kids over for her son’s birthday party and she still hadn’t done any thank-you notes, months later.

They invite people to chat back via the blog comments or voicemail and wow, people had all sorts of opinions.

This is how I commented on the blog:

If I were Elizabeth, I’d write individual emails (most of it a standard template) and say, “sorry this thank-you note is so late but we’re very grateful and I didn’t want to let the lateness put me off. Thank you so much for Jack’s _______.” Done – no more guilt!

On the matter of lateness, I personally feel in life we get hooked on that and forget the bigger picture. People say I’ve been saying hi to the same person for so long and I still don’t know his/ her name but it’s too late to ask now.

My view is ASK! I have had this happen to me and I say, “oh I’m so sorry. We’ve been saying hello for months now and I completely forgot your name”. Then they tell me and I tell them, and then I try to remember!

Does this happen to you? How do you deal with it?

THANK YOU CARDS

You all know my feelings on the subject of thank-you notes, but in case you don’t want to go read this post and this one, here is the highlights package:

1. I hate going to crowded shops but yet I love giving gifts, especially thoughtful ones. So too, I always appreciate that others took the time to shop for me or the kids and even if just for that, I want us to be appreciative and grateful and thank them properly.

2. My kids have always been required to do thank-yous. In the very early days, I’d write out the notes and have them do a squiggle, to just their name, to the whole note. Last year (6th birthday), we went away for a holiday the day after their birthday party and I wanted to get the thank-yous done before we left, so I had them record voice messages and we sent those out. The recipients LOVED them (i must say, better than the paper notes!) so we might do the same this year.

3. I definitely like to know if people have received gifts I’ve sent, and I think it is just good manners to acknowledge the gift.

4. I personally thank the giver in person, but I will send an SMS afterwards to thank them again. Another thing I like to do is if I’m using the thing, I’ll send a quick SMS to say, “oh, I’ve just opened the body wash you gave me (or whatever) and I love the fragrance – thanks again”.

5. I’ve given gifts before (posted) and if the recipient hasn’t even acknowledged it, they won’t get a gift from me again!

6. I suppose in summary, I feel like the how isn’t important, just that it is done. Some people (like me) love a thank-you in words so I try to remember who prefers auditory and who prefers written. One time the kids slaved over their written thank-you notes and the recipient read and tossed it in front of the kids. I remember Connor’s shocked face. He is an acts of service boy so by him writing it out so nicely and it being tossed, it hurt him.

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Aunty Funso loves written thank-you notes 🙂

For the birthday that just passed, we did whatsapp voicemail messages to all the kids (this is apparently our new thing) but proper phone calls to the family. Some people gave experience gifts (Spur gift vouchers) so when we were there using the vouchers, we took photos and sent it to them.

What is your take on the thank-you notes saga?

Do you do thank-you notes?

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Comments

  1. If I say hello often to someone and I don’t know their name I feel awkward asking and usually find a way to get the name without asking them but if there is no other choice I make a joke about it and ask anyway.

    I love your response on the late thank you. I believe better late than never. I love buying and giving gifts and I definitely like a thank you note and it could be a real note or sms or call or whatsapp(being in touch with technology). I’m teaching my child this and at the moment we usually record a thank you video to say thank you. Another way I say thank you is take a picture of us using the gift.

  2. I say thank often. What we do with prezzies K gets is take a pic of him with it, then I add thank you text to it. Will do the voicenote option next time 🙂

  3. I always do my best to send the thank you notes via email within a few days of the party. I HATE not being thanked for the gifts my kids give so I am (I think) quite diligent about sending the thank you’s out.

    I love the Voice note idea and will start using that one now that Kade is older. For Gemma I will still send out the thank you’s until she’s old enough to take part in them herself.

  4. I LOVE thank you notes! And I love the voice note idea. Going to try that.

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