A few weeks ago I wrote a post, what I want more of this year, and so this is the companion post to that one 🙂
I just mindmapped it and quickly came up with 8 things, but I’ll share 5 here today 😉
reading bad books
Part of my personality is that I’m a great completer of projects, persistent and I follow through. The shadow side to that means that I have a problem letting go.
I abandoned about 4 books last year which is AWESOME for me, since I just never could ever stop reading a bad book.
So while I’m not as bad as I was, I could get much better at this.
I have a very flexible role at the moment which means I don’t need to be as office-based as before. Yet, I love the energy of my team and I’m an extrovert (ESTJ – with a driver function of extroverted sensing) so I’m probably in the office a bit more than I need to be.
This year I want to commute less than last year and use my time more productively.
Instagram coma is a term I use to describe the state where you go into a trance just scrolling all the pretty pics, liking, commenting, etc. It’s addictive and often a lot more time passes than you realise.
A few weeks ago I realised it was getting worse so I’m trying to do something productive instead of that coma, like write a blog post, organise something quickly, throw in a load of laundry. Anything to break that trance-like state.
I realised that between sending the kids off to school and when I need to brave the traffic and leave for work, I was wasting a lot of time mindlessly scrolling through Instagram. #instagramcoma 〰 This week I decided to make a change so I’ve written short blog posts and this morning caught up on some blog reading and commenting. Do you find yourself in an Instagram coma? How do you prevent that from happening? . #timemanagement #liveintentionally #timewasters #prettymugs #marcialovestea
Being a firstborn at work
When I read The Firstborn Advantage last year, I realised that a lot of my tendencies at work are actually firstborn traits.
Like being the one to log a call for the printer cartridges to be replaced, volunteering for things no-one else wants to do, being the first to actually do and submit reports, etc.
I think it’s related but I also realised at the end of last year that sometimes I fight the point because I’m right instead of choosing the work relationship and letting them figure it out in their own time that a solution was the right way.
So I’m going to be super relaxed this year with things that don’t matter, saving my energy for the real stuff I’m employed to do 🙂
This is an interesting one but there is one relationship in my life where I have very weak boundaries. My husband even commented recently that this is not like me!
I think it’s because this relationship is linked to something I consider a big part of my identity and I don’t want to mess that up. Still, it’s not good because it leaves me feeling resentful and frustrated when I feel my boundaries are being pushed time and time again.
I would love some ideas for gentle boundary strengthening 🙂