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The first rule of time management (and life, really) is realising that you have a choice.
Often people tell me they don’t have a choice because of x, y and z reasons.
And actually, that’s not true.
You always have a choice.
Of course these choices are sometimes Super Hard but they’re always available. It also takes courage to admit that those choices exist in the first place.
Let me explain.
1. I’ve said before that I can’t go to Weigh-Less and gym on a Saturday morning. Then I realised that I was lying to myself. Technically I could do it. It’s just that it was super hard and really tight time-wise with the kids’ breakfast and gym.
But I could do it if I really wanted to wake up 30 minutes earlier.
2. A lady told me she didn’t have time to do anything for herself.
When we explored a little more, she did, in fact, have time, but she was too tired at night after the chores were done.
It’s not true that she doesn’t have a choice. She does. She could, technically, do something for herself first if she wanted to and then finish the household chores. She could even leave some of those chores for her husband.
It takes courage to admit, “I’m choosing to do household chores with my time instead of my own hobbies”.
3. Still someone else was talking to me about a work situation last year.
She said she didn’t have a choice in leaving her employment because she couldn’t find another job.
I suggested that she accept responsibility for where she was at. To stop complaining and realise if anything was to change, she had to make it happen.
If she didn’t want to go out and find something else, then she had to consciously say to herself, “I’m choosing to stay at my current company because of X, Y and Z” or otherwise realise she had a choice.
Well, this same lady sent me an email last week. Apparently I kicked her butt and she decided to go out and look for another job. She told me she was so happy and was glad I talked tough to her.
Your coaching challenge is to…
1. Identify 1 – 3 situations where you’ve been saying “I can’t” or “I don’t have a choice”.
2. Change your words and say, “I’m choosing to do __________ because of ________________” When we tell ourselves the truth, we realise that we either have to accept our circumstances or and it will empower us to change our words and start making different choices.
I fully realise that this is not a popular thing to tell you because all of us don’t like facing our stuff, but I know that in my own life, when I’ve accepted that everything is a choice, I’ve been happier doing or not doing things simply because I felt more empowered.
Where have you realised recently that you have a choice?
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