I’ve been following Gretchen Rubin’s annual goals linked to the calendar year since she started doing these back in (was it 2017? 2018?) and they are certainly a fun way to write down some goals. However, it gets a bit tricky as the years go on. I’ve found that a few things help me to not feel overwhelmed with the sheer number and I’d like to share these tips with you:
1. Pick a few easy, once-off goals to get you started
- Is there something you need to buy that will involve only a step or two? New underwear?
- Do you want to try something new? One year (2020) I had “try an adult ballet class” on my list. Once I attended, that was done! I bought a car, a big deal because it had been 17 years with my previous one.
- One year I had “learn to roast a chicken”. I had to do it twice before I was happy with it and I also learned that I prefer to pay for a rotisserie chicken 😉
- Do you want to see a favourite performer, a ballet, or go to the theatre?
- I also put my most-hated but still necessary medical appointments on my list.
2. Are there practices you want to commit to monthly or weekly?
- It doesn’t have to be many times a month but having something to do 12 times a year is doable and the consistency will help build it into a habit.
- Some examples – join a book club and attend once a month, see Friend X once a month, have a monthly date with your kids, etc.
- Maybe for an exercise routine to stick, you might have “attend Zumba twice every week”.
- I have seen so many fun lists with 24 worked into the goal. I also have a couple: 24 fun nights away or in Jhb, 24 Fun Fridays, etc. My one coaching client has “24 Sunday morning adventures with T (her young son)” – doesn’t that sound fun?
                     A new weekly class at the gym
3. Do you have any project-based goals?
- A project is something with multiple steps but it has a specific start and end date.
- Some projects that have been/ are on my lists: buy a new car, get pyjama lounge carpet ripped up and replaced, and so on.
- Are you doing the Happiness Project Revisited? Or any other course? That would fit in here too. I’ve done The Nester’s Cosy Minimalist course before and Emily P Freeman’s Discern and Decide.
4. What about goals that inspire growth?
- I would classify a no-spend month, decluttering your kitchen, organising and getting up to date with your photo books, all in this category.
- I am an underbuyer in most areas so I need to be encouraged to spend out in some areas. Maybe you’re one too? Maybe you’re an overbuyer and need to get your spending under control?
- I currently have a low-iron stores situation going on so for 2023 and again this year, one goal is to have my iron tested quarterly.
5. Open and wide goals that invite whimsy or fun
- This is my favourite category. Sometimes enneagram 1 upholders need to loosen the reigns.
- Last year I had “watch more TV” on my list. That’s it. Open to my own interpretation and indeed, I watched more TV (I didn’t previously watch more than about two episodes of something once a month) and so I loved it. Yes, I also read fewer books as a result but I definitely had more fun.
- This year, I have “listen to more music” on my list. I subscribed to Spotify Premium and am making playlists, searching anything that strikes my fancy and cooking with music instead of podcasts. More fun!
- I also have “play with photography again and post things that delight only me”.
I hope all these categories help and don’t hinder you in your goal-setting this year. The point is that if you only have goals that you have to do weekly for a year, it’s going to feel like a slog. You want to have a bit of this and a bit of that so that you have a good balance. I tweaked and tweaked until my list felt more play and not all work, and then I decided to see if I could make a second list, and lo, I have another 24 items. I’m holding it all loosely though 🙂
Please ask all the questions you need. I plan to do a follow up post on how I track all of this, because I know there are many interested.
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