Let’s talk about values


I was reminded of something I love talking about recently – values.

Values are the things that shape our decisions and therefore, our actions.

When we feel conflicted or resentful about something, 90% of the time it’s because our values are in conflict or not showing up clear in the situation.

For example, maybe you’ve had a conversation with someone and you have this niggling feeling afterwards. If you stop and ask yourself, “what’s really going on here?” (a question I’ve started asking myself a lot), and you give yourself a few minutes, you’ll know what it is.

  • Maybe you didn’t stand up for someone who was being discussed, and one of your highest values is integrity?
  • Maybe you felt put upon and that resentment indicates your value of family is being pushed aside?Maybe you realised that actually no, you are not feeling connected and that’s what’s missing in your life?


I have a whole section on values in the Discover Yourself course (use code MARCIA til the end of August and you’ll get 30% off  the price) where I walk you properly through a values exercise.

However, if you want the quick version now, start like this:rite down 10 of your highest values

  1. narrow those down to your top 5
  2. now choose your top 3, and then your top 1.

bonus – ask your partner/ a friend to do the exercise too and compare notes.

What are some of your values? Are you living out these values in your life, work, with your family?



(the words underneath the 3 photos in this post represent 3 of my top 10 values)

PS It’s interesting to me (now!) that the mantra for the Upholder is “discipline is my freedom”. I would add, “self-imposed discipline is my freedom: 😉

PPS I do work with clients to take them through a comprehensive values exercise to aid them with decision-making and understanding why they behave in the way they do. If you’re interested, please send me an email.

It all started with a few lines on a page…

The lady had us draw 4 quadrants on a page.

In one quadrant she asked us to write a bit about where we saw ourselves in 20 – 30 years.

I wrote something like “a motivational speaker travelling around the country talking to groups of women” and while I waited for the others to finish, I thought, “so what can I do now to start me on that path?”

And that’s how I started the newsletter. Thirteen years ago!

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One day after work, I stayed behind, wrote out a newsletter, made up a coaching worksheet (only I didn’t call it that), and sent it out to 20 of my work friends, and off I went home.

The next day most of those 20 wrote nice emails back to me, thanking me, and telling me they’d passed it onto a friend.

For a while I managed the newsletter like that from a free yahoo address.

When the list grew to more than 200, I couldn’t manage the manual adding and removing of subscribers, and I paid for a “proper” mailing list.

Today I write my newsletters to thousands of people twice a month. For about 18 months at the beginning, I wrote monthly, and for most of the years, I sent out a weekly newsletter.

That’s how it starts when you tap into the essence of who you are and start to explore your passions.

I want to help you do the same.

On the Discover Yourself virtual workshop, you will…

  • discover your passion
  • identify your values
  • create your life mission
  • gain control of your negative beliefs
  • learn how to step out of the box

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When you finish, you will know yourself better and understand exactly what makes you tick, and why you were designed to be the way you are.

More than 50 women and a few good men have walked through this content with me one-on-one, and now it’s your turn to do so virtually.

No matter where in the world you are, you can take this course.

What do you get?

– 4 weeks of lessons and worksheets conveniently delivered to your inbox, one every week
– a complete PDF workbook of everything at the end
– 3 beautiful images of the beach and mountains to use on your desktop to inspire you
– bonus – those first 6 months of my original newsletter with the original worksheets

The best? I’m making it a pay-as-you-want sale for this month only, again with a $10 minimum.

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