Last year was not the best Mother’s Day (even though it was my first) as I was sleep deprived and the babies were still such a lot of work.
I know nobody talks about the hard times but hey, that’s what you come here for, right? Honesty 🙂
Anyway, so this year I was determined to have a much better day.
I did a couple of things that worked really well and when I was reflecting on them, I thought this might resonate with a couple of you too, so here goes:
I made my expectations clear and didn’t expect my husband to read my mind
He asked what I wanted and I told him “small and practical gifts, one from you and one from the babies, plus some me time”
I gave myself permission to take the me time
I realised after I asked for the “me time” that nobody had ever prevented me from taking it.
Least of all him.
It’s me who runs around cleaning the house and doing, doing, doing when I could easily stop and take a rest while the babies nap.
It’s cold in Jhb now and last week I realised that I needed some more long-sleeved t-shirts as I was still wearing 3 from when I was pregnant in the early stages, and another 2 from when I was huge.
Not a good look!
So off I went on Saturday morning for a solo shopping trip. One hour, R550 later and I was recharged.
On Sunday morning after we fed the kids, I jumped back into bed and had my breakfast. I chose to read for about 45 minutes.
Late afternoon when they were having their 2nd nap, I had another read.
It was heavenly.
But I realised that I need to give myself permission more often to do “nothing”. To relax.
How about you?
Are you also go, go, go? Do you need to give yourself permission to relax too?
